You generally get angry when someone has harmed you or is harming you, your family or friend. During those times, you feel both ” you or I” and ” them” are tangible independent entities. Because you commit the mistake of considering them as entities based on their appearance, anger is generated. However there is an alternative way of looking at it even before the first rays of rage appear in your mind.
Reason yourself and your thinking by asking:
- Who am ?
- Who is being hurt?
- What is the enemy ?
- Is the enemy the body of the other person?
- Is the enemy his or her mind?
The above is the principle of reflection as told by His Holiness Dala Lama.
If you examine things as prescribed then the enemy previously created to get angry and you the ” I” created to be hurt seem to disappear. And the anger subsides.
It is important to understand that immediate results cannot be expected by practicing this way. It does not matter how spiritual in your life, but being a good person is important But through this act of contemplation , your anger will recede and the irritants in your life will change colour. All gopd qualities need to be sown like a good seed, to be watered regularly and have the right soil for cultivation. That needs patience. So dp not expect to be cured of this affliction in one day.