In a difficult personal circumstances, the best recourse is to try to remain as open, hones and sincere as possible. By responding harshly or selfishly, we simply make maters worse. This is especially apparent in painful family situations. Its helpful to realize that difficult present circumstances are at least partly due to your own past undisciplined actions, so when you experience a difficult period, do your best to avoid behavior that will add to your burden later on. If your past actions are causes of the present situation, use the present to mold a better future
If you see that some situation or person is going to cayuse you harm, it is important to take action to avoid it, but once suffering has started , it should be received not as burden, but as something that can assist you. Undergoing small sufferings in this lifetime can purify the karma of many ill deeds that you accumulated earlier. Adopting this perspective will help you realistically see the ills of this round of existence and the more you can do this, the more you will dislike nonvirtues that lead to more such troubles.
Hardship also helps you to see the advantages of freeing yourself from negative attitudes. In addition though your own experience of suffering you will be able to empathize with the pain of others and generate a strong desire to do something for them. So , seen in this way, suffering can provide remarkable opportunities to stimulate practice and reflection.
Form this view point, forces that oppose you teach inner strength , courage and determination. This does not mean you should give in to those who would harm you. Depending on your enemy attitude , you may have to defend yourself vigorously, but deep down try to maintain your calm by realizing that , like you, she or he is a person who wants happiness and does not want suffering. It is hard to believe , but over time, it is possible to develop such an attitude.